The Best Kept Secret Blog - Gay Men and Mid-Life Women - Two Peas In A Pod

I recently enjoyed a smart little cocktail with a dear friend of mine, R. who happens to be a gay man in his early 50's.

As we caught up on each other's news, I told him that I was about to launch an on-line resource for Toronto women over 40.

"You know," he told me, "I've got some great friends who are women around that age. We relate to each other so well."

"Really," I wondered. "How so?"

"Because of the sex," he replied.

I was getting a little confused at this point. I wasn't quite sure if I had had too many smart little cocktails or if cutting those Grade 8 health classes was finally catching up with me.

Reading my confusion, R. continued.

"From what my friends tell me, by the time a woman reaches this point in her life, she enjoys sex for what it is. Not as a way of attracting a man or of keeping a man or of getting something from a man. When a middle-aged woman has sex, it's because she wants to have it. Period. And, because she isn't exhausted from caring for small children all day like when she was younger, she wants it."

While I know it doesn't apply to every woman, I have to say that a lot rings true about R.'s theory. Think about it the next time you're enjoying your cocktail.